So when we talk about things that are out of our control we have to understand that there are so many things that are out of our control...think about it, loss of a loved one, abusive situations, parents that are not active in our lives or not present in our lives, where we are born, the economic status we are born into, and so on and so on!!! We can't control the way we look, the genetics that were passed on to us from our parents, we cannot control the sins that our parents were apart of and may still be apart of now!!
I want you to know this before I type anything else, God cares for you, he loves you and if you have been hurt or if you have mad a mistake he wants you to give that to Him, the Bible says, 1 Peter 5:7 - Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you. So I want you to know that God cares for you and He wants to take your mistakes and your hurts and He wants to mold you and make you into a vessel of honor!!!
But I want to remove from you the excuses...see the Children of Israel had the same problem, they always used the excuse that the generations before them did it this way or were always dealing with these certain sins so we are just going to fall to them too...they were removing the blame from themselves and blaming their parents and grandparents. In Ezekiel 18 we see that God was fed up with their excuses and so he said this through His prophet, Ezekiel 18:2, 3 and 20, 21 - 2 "What do you mean when you use this proverb concerning the land of Israel, saying; 'The Fathers have eaten sour grapes, And the children's teeth are set on edge'? 3 "As i live." says the Lord GOD, "you shall no longer use this proverb in Israel..." 20 the souls who sins shall die. The son shall not bear the guilt of the father, nor the father bear the guilt of the son. The righteousness of the righteous shall be upon himself, and the wickedness of the wicked shall be upon himself. 21 "But if a wicked man turns from all of his shins which he has committed, keeps all of My statutes, and does what is lawful and right, he shall surely live; he shall not die... What the scripture is telling us is, yeah God knows there are some things out of our control, but it doesn't matter what has been done to you, you are responsible for your actions!!! Don't use the hurts of your past as a license to sin and live like you want to today!!!
In summary, you can't control other people's actions, but you can control your reactions!! So give God your hurts and your mistakes and let Him mold you and make you into a vessel of honor meet for the Master's use!!!
God Bless,
Nathan
